The marriage of Nicholas II and Alexandra Feodorovna is called a saint. The last emperor and empress in the history of Russia carried their feelings through all trials and tribulations.
1.5 years waiting
Love for Alexandra Feodorovna, and then the princess of Hessian Alice, was the first love of Nicholas II. This feeling was born in him even before he came of age - at the age of 16, and the future king saw his wife in Alice, who was even less - 12! Native princesses also called their baby Sunny, that is, "Sunny", and Nikolai was already thinking about the wedding. “I dream of marrying Alix G. someday. I have loved her for a long time, but especially deeply and strongly since 1889, when she spent 6 weeks in St. Petersburg. All this time I didn’t believe my feeling, didn’t believe that my cherished dream could come true, ”Nikolai wrote in his diary. For five years he waited for the will of God for this marriage, for five years he humbly prayed, asked "adults" and wrote a diary, on the first page of which was a photograph of his Alice. Later he will write to her: “The Savior told us:“ Everything that you ask of God, God will give you. ”These words are infinitely dear to me, because for five years I have been praying them, repeating them every night, begging Him to facilitate Alix's transition to the Orthodox faith and give it to me as a wife. "
The water wears away the stone and breaks through the dam of the parental "no". Five years later, the lovers get married to be together until their death.
2. Simplicity of habits
Despite the height of the position, which cannot be higher, the emperor and empress led a completely simple life, trying not to indulge in excesses and raising children in severity. They were convinced that everything superfluous only corrupts, that it is "from the evil one." It is known that Nikolai preferred cabbage soup and porridge to exquisite French dishes, and instead of expensive wine he could drink ordinary Russian vodka. The emperor simply swam in the lake with other men, without making something secret out of his person and his body.
And the behavior of Alexandra Fyodorovna during the war is known to many - she graduated from the nursing courses and, together with her daughters, worked as a nurse in a hospital. Evil tongues now and then discussed this: they said that such simplicity would reduce the authority of the royal family, then that the empress hates the Russians and helps the German soldiers. Not a single queen in Russia has ever been a nurse. And the activities of Alexandra and her daughters in the hospital did not stop from early morning until late at night.
There are many testimonies that the tsar and tsarina were unusually simple in dealing with soldiers, peasants, orphans - in short, with any person. The queen instilled in her children that everyone is equal before God and that they should not be proud of their position.
3. Kayaking trips
The royal family usually presents itself in a solemn atmosphere, in the performance of the duties of the leaders of the country. But it is impossible to live only in this way, and it is even more difficult in such conditions to preserve and strengthen the family. The Emperor, Empress and their children can also be imagined ... on a kayak trip. Nicholas II had a passion for kayaks since childhood, his parents gave his first kayak to the Tsarevich at the age of 13. Many relatives of the future monarch knew about their love for water, and Nicholas II often received a boat or a kayak as a gift for his birthdays.
Alexandra, with her sore legs (which forced her from an early age to sit in a wheelchair for a while), seeing her husband's passion, happily shared it. And although a long stay in cold water was contraindicated for her, she periodically accompanied her beloved husband. Memoirists, for example, mention her four-kilometer kayak trek through the Finnish skerries.
Workshops, schools, hospitals, prisons - Empress Alexandra was engaged in all this from the very first years of her marriage. Her own fortune was small, and she had to cut personal expenses to carry out charity events. During the famine of 1898, Alexandra gave 50 thousand rubles from her personal funds to fight him - this is an eighth of the family's annual income.
Living in Crimea, the Empress took an ardent part in the fate of tuberculosis patients who came to Crimea for treatment. She rebuilt the sanatoriums, providing them with all the improvements - with her own money.
They say that Empress Alexandra was a born sister of mercy, and the wounded were happy when she visited them. Soldiers and officers often asked her to be with them during heavy dressings and operations, saying that it was “not so scary” when the empress was around.
Homes for fallen girls, homes for industriousness, school of folk art ...
“The august Family was not limited to financial aid, but donated their own personal labors, ” the monk Seraphim (Kuznetsov) testifies in his book. - How many church airs, veils and other things were embroidered by the hands of the Queen and Daughters, sent to the military, monastic and poor churches. I personally had to see these royal gifts and have them even in my distant desert monastery. "
5. Laws of family understanding
The diaries and letters of the royal family are becoming more and more popular in Russia and abroad. Young couples are looking for recipes in them for maintaining a strong and happy family. And, I must say, they find it. Here are some quotes:
"The meaning of marriage is to bring joy. Marriage is a divine ceremony. It is the closest and most sacred bond on earth. After marriage, the main duties of a husband and wife are to live for each other, to give their lives for each other. Marriage is a union. two halves into a single whole. Each until the end of his life is responsible for the happiness and the highest good of the other. "
"The crown of love is silence."
"The great art is to live together, loving each other tenderly. This should start with the parents themselves. Each house is similar to its creators. A refined nature makes a house sophisticated, a rude person makes a house rough."
6. Gifts to each other
Small and large gifts to each other were an important part of the Romanov family life. In one of her diaries, Empress Alexandra writes: “A husband and wife should constantly show each other signs of the most tender attention and love. The happiness of life is made up of individual minutes, of small, quickly forgotten pleasures: from a kiss, a smile, a kind look, a heartfelt compliment and countless small but kind thoughts and sincere feelings. Love also needs its daily bread. "
The empress's notes are not a theory, but her daily life. She loved to make surprises for Nikolai and the children on a variety of occasions, and Nikolai appreciated and shared this tradition. Perhaps the most famous and traditional gift in their home was Faberge eggs for Easter.
One of the most touching and beautiful eggs is "clover". Its openwork rim bears the image of the Imperial Crown, the date "1902" and the monogram of Empress Alexandra Feodorovna framed with clover flowers. And inside there is a precious four-leafed leaf with 4 portraits of the tsar's daughters: Olga, Tatiana, Maria and Anastasia. This egg is a symbol of the happy marriage of Nicholas II and Alexandra Feodorovna, because the four-leaf clover, which is so rarely found in nature, is a promise of happiness. And the egg itself is symbolic: it is Easter, and eternal birth, and family, and the Universe, and faith in the appearance of an heir.
7. Honeymoon 23 years old
All families remember their wedding day, but Alix and Nikolai even celebrated ... their engagement day every year. This day, April 8, they always spent together, and for the first time parted when they were already over forty. In April 1915, the emperor was at the front, but even there he received a warm letter from his beloved: “For the first time in 21 years we spend this day not together, but how vividly I remember everything! My dear boy, what happiness and what love you gave me for all these years ... You know, I kept that "princess dress" in which I was that morning, and I will put on your favorite brooch ... "After so many years of marriage, the empress confessed in letters that she was kissing Nikolai's pillow when he was not around, and Nikolai still became shy, like a young man, if they met after a long separation.
No wonder other contemporaries said with some envy: "Their honeymoon lasted 23 years ..."
On the day of the wedding, Alix wrote in Nikolai's diary: "When this life is over, we will meet again in another world and remain together forever."